We know what to eat, we know what we should be eating, and what we should not be eating. I know I did when I was a compulsive eater wanting to lose weight.
In recovering from my compulsion to eat when full and in my work helping people lose excess weight for good, I clearly see that we all know what we should and should not be eating. So focusing on what we should and should not be eating is not focusing on the real issue in the game of how to lose excess weight for good - it is a side issue - the main issue is a little harder to face, and it is this - Why we can't impliment that knowledge? Why can't we have the extent of control over our eating patterns that means we can stop when full 100% of the time and mainly eat the foods we know are good for us while those that are not so good for us, keep to a minimum?
Well the answer as you may already know, is - emotional.
This is why resolving emotional issues is always at the root of permanent, natural weight loss. We have two things going on at a time - the compulsion to eat when full and often the 'wrong' foods' when full, and at the same time the knowlege that what we are doing is not that good for us and also the realisation that our control over that is limited because an emotion we simply do not know how to deal with, is coming into our awareness, and we feel like we want to run away from it because it is so uncomfortable and that is our way of dealing with it - to eat when full to suppress it, yes, to binge on foods that do not make us feel good helps us suppress our uncomfortable emotions.
So ask yourself - What emotion would I feel if I did not eat when full? Or What emotions are repeatedly behind my urge to eat when full or eat the 'wrong' foods?
Think back to the last time you overate on something you knew was 'bad' for you - Ask yourself - If I hadn't eaten that, what emotion would have come up? and then ask yourself - How else could I have dealt with that emotion? What action, if any, was that emotion urging me to take?
Honour all that you know and all that you are learning in this mystical journey towards true and lasting slimnesss.
So until next time, wishing you,
love and inner insight that may lead you forward to true slimness.
Sofia
Wednesday, 5 October 2011
Sunday, 11 September 2011
Eating When Full
Just taking a week to focus on when you are actually full, will help you greatly in losing excess weight for good. Every time you notice yourself full yet wanting to eat more, is a time when you have power - power to deeply know what is driving you to eat when full.
As eating when full is the root cause of excess weight, you are looking at what is the cause of your excess weight every time you become aware of your emotions as you crave to eat more, even though your stomach is saying 'No thanks, I'm full right now.'
Reassurance is often good at this point as feelings of deprivation are not uncommon when we, want to eat when full but are abstaining from eating when full. Yes, reassure yourself that you can indeed eat again once some real hunger sensations start. Remind yourself, even though you feel deprived, that it is a self-abusive thing to force food (however tasty, or however craved / wanted) into your already full stomach.
And remind yourself of what the last binge felt like physically. The bloating, the tummy ache, the 'I'm far too full feeling.' That 'far too full' feeling may feel normal but it is not that comfortable the more you bring your awareness to it. Also bring awareness to the gentle reminders that your stomach is constantly relaying to you that the stopping point for eating is often before when you actually do stop. But be kind and understanding of yourself and your habits that you are brave and willing enough to be embarking on changing - This is not necessarily easy and be very kind to yourself - mistakes, slip ups and far from perfect eating is totally allowed as you master the art of stopping when full.
It is giving up an addiction - eating when full is an addiction - a crutch that is used to help deal with feelings, and the crutch can easily be dropped as you learn how else to deal with those feelings and emotional issues that drive you to the fridge when full, just as an alcoholic is driven to drink or a junkie to score.
Compassion not judgement helps you move forward and away from addiction - you can do it millions have already.
Good luck,
Until next time,
Sofia
Phone sessions available (01792) 799 617
http://www.trueslimness.co.uk
http://twitter.com/TrueSlimness
As eating when full is the root cause of excess weight, you are looking at what is the cause of your excess weight every time you become aware of your emotions as you crave to eat more, even though your stomach is saying 'No thanks, I'm full right now.'
Reassurance is often good at this point as feelings of deprivation are not uncommon when we, want to eat when full but are abstaining from eating when full. Yes, reassure yourself that you can indeed eat again once some real hunger sensations start. Remind yourself, even though you feel deprived, that it is a self-abusive thing to force food (however tasty, or however craved / wanted) into your already full stomach.
And remind yourself of what the last binge felt like physically. The bloating, the tummy ache, the 'I'm far too full feeling.' That 'far too full' feeling may feel normal but it is not that comfortable the more you bring your awareness to it. Also bring awareness to the gentle reminders that your stomach is constantly relaying to you that the stopping point for eating is often before when you actually do stop. But be kind and understanding of yourself and your habits that you are brave and willing enough to be embarking on changing - This is not necessarily easy and be very kind to yourself - mistakes, slip ups and far from perfect eating is totally allowed as you master the art of stopping when full.
It is giving up an addiction - eating when full is an addiction - a crutch that is used to help deal with feelings, and the crutch can easily be dropped as you learn how else to deal with those feelings and emotional issues that drive you to the fridge when full, just as an alcoholic is driven to drink or a junkie to score.
Compassion not judgement helps you move forward and away from addiction - you can do it millions have already.
Good luck,
Until next time,
Sofia
Phone sessions available (01792) 799 617
http://www.trueslimness.co.uk
http://twitter.com/TrueSlimness
Sunday, 4 September 2011
Blossoming
This wonderful geranium is proclaiming to the world, or my back yard: 'See you can still blossom!'
How does that relate to us as we recover from compulsive eating, and lose weight for good naturally? Well, in my experience of being a recovered compulsive eater and recovered bulimic for over 25 years, blossoming is part and parcel of this healing journey. We give up eating when full, we give up suppressing our emotions by stuffing them down with food when full and we start to listen to their guidance instead. The emotion of dissatisfaction, for example, is telling us we are dissatisfied with some aspect of our lives, and when we explore that, instead of suppressing it by eating when full, we might find ourselves drawn to enrol in an art class, or start reading books on some subject that interests us. In fact, I actively encourage you to - today - start asking yourself - What am I interested in? And then - How can I bring more of that into my life? This may be exactly what will fill that gap, in your life, that no amount of food when full can ever fill.
Until next time,
Love and blessings as you blossom,
Sofia
Check out my YouTube video on addiction swapping
http://youtu.be/HIeW53lmK_Q
Thursday, 5 May 2011
Freedom from fat
What feeling is this? And Given the fact I feel this way what would I like to do now? And doing it if it is healthy - This freedom from fat.
Now why is this?
We have all heard the term 'comfort eating' and you may have experienced eating when full when you are bored or stressed, or feeling a bit low or annoyed about something. and this is it! Eating when full because of an emotion!
You see. in some way this eating when full 'comforts'. It 'comforts' by suppressing the original feeling. It 'comforts' by distancing you from the original feeling. So your key to giving up eating when ful lies in finding another way to comfort yourself, and you can do this with the help of my free download from my web site http://www.trueslimness.co.uk - The 'Am I hungry? download.
So, i invite you to explore new ways of dealing with your emotions so that you no longer eat when full because of them, and because eating when full causes excess weight you are - by stopping when full - putting yourself in the position to lose that excess weight for good!
Freedom from fat is an emotional journey, a journey of learning how to deal with your emotions in new ways, giving you new life and a new slimmer body.
So, until next time, take and maybe even enjoy the inner journey to true and lasting slimness.
Check out new You tube videos
http://www.youtube.com/trueslimness
Blessings, Sofia
Now why is this?
We have all heard the term 'comfort eating' and you may have experienced eating when full when you are bored or stressed, or feeling a bit low or annoyed about something. and this is it! Eating when full because of an emotion!
You see. in some way this eating when full 'comforts'. It 'comforts' by suppressing the original feeling. It 'comforts' by distancing you from the original feeling. So your key to giving up eating when ful lies in finding another way to comfort yourself, and you can do this with the help of my free download from my web site http://www.trueslimness.co.uk - The 'Am I hungry? download.
So, i invite you to explore new ways of dealing with your emotions so that you no longer eat when full because of them, and because eating when full causes excess weight you are - by stopping when full - putting yourself in the position to lose that excess weight for good!
Freedom from fat is an emotional journey, a journey of learning how to deal with your emotions in new ways, giving you new life and a new slimmer body.
So, until next time, take and maybe even enjoy the inner journey to true and lasting slimness.
Check out new You tube videos
http://www.youtube.com/trueslimness
Blessings, Sofia
Sunday, 10 April 2011
Heart and mind slimness
True and lasting slimness is about what goes on in our hearts and minds as much as it is about what goes into our stomachs. Our eating is one thing, our emotions are another, but when you are a compulsive eater your eating and emotions are entangled.
Letting go of compulsive eating first and foremost involves separating these two things, eating and emotions, and you can do this by practising the formula - I'm physically hungry - I eat, I'm physically full - I stop eating. This is keeping eating separate from emotions.
Eating and emotions get entangled when you say - 'I'm full, I'm bored, I'll eat.'
Any time your action is that of 'I'm full, I'll eat,' know that your eating and emotions are entangled, for any eating when full is done for emotional reasons.
Go a level deeper by asking - 'What emotion is this? What feeling is this that drives me to eat when full?'
Yes, really get into this habit, through repetition - any time you want to eat when full ask yourself - 'What feeling is this that is driving me to eat when full?'
This is one of the first steps on the journey out of compulsive eating and towards true and lasting slimness.
Resolving anything that troubles your heart and mind, also resolves what causes your habit of overeating.
Letting go of compulsive eating first and foremost involves separating these two things, eating and emotions, and you can do this by practising the formula - I'm physically hungry - I eat, I'm physically full - I stop eating. This is keeping eating separate from emotions.
Eating and emotions get entangled when you say - 'I'm full, I'm bored, I'll eat.'
Any time your action is that of 'I'm full, I'll eat,' know that your eating and emotions are entangled, for any eating when full is done for emotional reasons.
Go a level deeper by asking - 'What emotion is this? What feeling is this that drives me to eat when full?'
Yes, really get into this habit, through repetition - any time you want to eat when full ask yourself - 'What feeling is this that is driving me to eat when full?'
This is one of the first steps on the journey out of compulsive eating and towards true and lasting slimness.
Resolving anything that troubles your heart and mind, also resolves what causes your habit of overeating.
Thursday, 24 February 2011
Creativity in weight loss
Giving up eating when full involves tuning into what you desire in life. As you practice the 'Am I hungry?' free download from my web site www.trueslimness.co.uk you may notice you often eat when full because of some aspect of your life that you are not yet satisfied with, and maybe even feel you have little hope of ever changing. This aspect of your life is not your excess weight, but the emotional stuff that lies hidden within your excess weight. We are going a level deeper than that surface issue of excess pounds, and into the emotional cause of those excess pounds.
It is very real, exciting and a bit of an adventure to face what emotionally we have never really consciously faced before, this is what makes losing weight either difficult or easy - the willingness or not to face up to whatever is there emotionally, hidden by patterns of 'eating when full'. Once we 'stop when full' / break the pattern of 'eating when full' up comes to light that which we have been hiding ourselves from - unresolved emotional stuff. Go there, and you get slim! That's the journey - the inner journey to true and lasting slimness. Not only a journey but an adventure, and this is where creativity comes in. Once you have broken out of the eat when full cycle in response to whatever is half-hidden emotionally, you are into creativity because often our negative or uncomfortable emotions are part of living an uncreative life - an uncreative life can be described as a life we do not really want to be living, the feeling of 'I'd like things to be different but I feel I need more money to do it, or I need a partner to do it , or I need to be younger, more attractive to do it,' and let's not forget our firm favourite - 'I need to be slimmer to do it!' Let's look at the truth of the matter - I need to be more creative to do it, I need to resolve my emotional stuff to do it. and the 'Am I hungry?' free download from my website www.trueslimness.co.uk is a condensed course in this.
and if you'd like further study you can back this up with a course of phone sessions or a copy of True Slimness the paperback (see my website for details).
Take the time now to think or write down five things you would like to create. Focus on their creation. True Slimness the e-book and paperback is filled with ideas on how to dissolve the blocks to their attainment. Slimness, good health and creativity go hand in hand. Enjoy!
Until next time,
Sofia.
It is very real, exciting and a bit of an adventure to face what emotionally we have never really consciously faced before, this is what makes losing weight either difficult or easy - the willingness or not to face up to whatever is there emotionally, hidden by patterns of 'eating when full'. Once we 'stop when full' / break the pattern of 'eating when full' up comes to light that which we have been hiding ourselves from - unresolved emotional stuff. Go there, and you get slim! That's the journey - the inner journey to true and lasting slimness. Not only a journey but an adventure, and this is where creativity comes in. Once you have broken out of the eat when full cycle in response to whatever is half-hidden emotionally, you are into creativity because often our negative or uncomfortable emotions are part of living an uncreative life - an uncreative life can be described as a life we do not really want to be living, the feeling of 'I'd like things to be different but I feel I need more money to do it, or I need a partner to do it , or I need to be younger, more attractive to do it,' and let's not forget our firm favourite - 'I need to be slimmer to do it!' Let's look at the truth of the matter - I need to be more creative to do it, I need to resolve my emotional stuff to do it. and the 'Am I hungry?' free download from my website www.trueslimness.co.uk is a condensed course in this.
and if you'd like further study you can back this up with a course of phone sessions or a copy of True Slimness the paperback (see my website for details).
Take the time now to think or write down five things you would like to create. Focus on their creation. True Slimness the e-book and paperback is filled with ideas on how to dissolve the blocks to their attainment. Slimness, good health and creativity go hand in hand. Enjoy!
Until next time,
Sofia.
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