What feeling is this? And Given the fact I feel this way what would I like to do now? And doing it if it is healthy - This freedom from fat.
Now why is this?
We have all heard the term 'comfort eating' and you may have experienced eating when full when you are bored or stressed, or feeling a bit low or annoyed about something. and this is it! Eating when full because of an emotion!
You see. in some way this eating when full 'comforts'. It 'comforts' by suppressing the original feeling. It 'comforts' by distancing you from the original feeling. So your key to giving up eating when ful lies in finding another way to comfort yourself, and you can do this with the help of my free download from my web site http://www.trueslimness.co.uk - The 'Am I hungry? download.
So, i invite you to explore new ways of dealing with your emotions so that you no longer eat when full because of them, and because eating when full causes excess weight you are - by stopping when full - putting yourself in the position to lose that excess weight for good!
Freedom from fat is an emotional journey, a journey of learning how to deal with your emotions in new ways, giving you new life and a new slimmer body.
So, until next time, take and maybe even enjoy the inner journey to true and lasting slimness.
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Blessings, Sofia
Thursday, 5 May 2011
Sunday, 10 April 2011
Heart and mind slimness
True and lasting slimness is about what goes on in our hearts and minds as much as it is about what goes into our stomachs. Our eating is one thing, our emotions are another, but when you are a compulsive eater your eating and emotions are entangled.
Letting go of compulsive eating first and foremost involves separating these two things, eating and emotions, and you can do this by practising the formula - I'm physically hungry - I eat, I'm physically full - I stop eating. This is keeping eating separate from emotions.
Eating and emotions get entangled when you say - 'I'm full, I'm bored, I'll eat.'
Any time your action is that of 'I'm full, I'll eat,' know that your eating and emotions are entangled, for any eating when full is done for emotional reasons.
Go a level deeper by asking - 'What emotion is this? What feeling is this that drives me to eat when full?'
Yes, really get into this habit, through repetition - any time you want to eat when full ask yourself - 'What feeling is this that is driving me to eat when full?'
This is one of the first steps on the journey out of compulsive eating and towards true and lasting slimness.
Resolving anything that troubles your heart and mind, also resolves what causes your habit of overeating.
Letting go of compulsive eating first and foremost involves separating these two things, eating and emotions, and you can do this by practising the formula - I'm physically hungry - I eat, I'm physically full - I stop eating. This is keeping eating separate from emotions.
Eating and emotions get entangled when you say - 'I'm full, I'm bored, I'll eat.'
Any time your action is that of 'I'm full, I'll eat,' know that your eating and emotions are entangled, for any eating when full is done for emotional reasons.
Go a level deeper by asking - 'What emotion is this? What feeling is this that drives me to eat when full?'
Yes, really get into this habit, through repetition - any time you want to eat when full ask yourself - 'What feeling is this that is driving me to eat when full?'
This is one of the first steps on the journey out of compulsive eating and towards true and lasting slimness.
Resolving anything that troubles your heart and mind, also resolves what causes your habit of overeating.
Thursday, 24 February 2011
Creativity in weight loss
Giving up eating when full involves tuning into what you desire in life. As you practice the 'Am I hungry?' free download from my web site www.trueslimness.co.uk you may notice you often eat when full because of some aspect of your life that you are not yet satisfied with, and maybe even feel you have little hope of ever changing. This aspect of your life is not your excess weight, but the emotional stuff that lies hidden within your excess weight. We are going a level deeper than that surface issue of excess pounds, and into the emotional cause of those excess pounds.
It is very real, exciting and a bit of an adventure to face what emotionally we have never really consciously faced before, this is what makes losing weight either difficult or easy - the willingness or not to face up to whatever is there emotionally, hidden by patterns of 'eating when full'. Once we 'stop when full' / break the pattern of 'eating when full' up comes to light that which we have been hiding ourselves from - unresolved emotional stuff. Go there, and you get slim! That's the journey - the inner journey to true and lasting slimness. Not only a journey but an adventure, and this is where creativity comes in. Once you have broken out of the eat when full cycle in response to whatever is half-hidden emotionally, you are into creativity because often our negative or uncomfortable emotions are part of living an uncreative life - an uncreative life can be described as a life we do not really want to be living, the feeling of 'I'd like things to be different but I feel I need more money to do it, or I need a partner to do it , or I need to be younger, more attractive to do it,' and let's not forget our firm favourite - 'I need to be slimmer to do it!' Let's look at the truth of the matter - I need to be more creative to do it, I need to resolve my emotional stuff to do it. and the 'Am I hungry?' free download from my website www.trueslimness.co.uk is a condensed course in this.
and if you'd like further study you can back this up with a course of phone sessions or a copy of True Slimness the paperback (see my website for details).
Take the time now to think or write down five things you would like to create. Focus on their creation. True Slimness the e-book and paperback is filled with ideas on how to dissolve the blocks to their attainment. Slimness, good health and creativity go hand in hand. Enjoy!
Until next time,
Sofia.
It is very real, exciting and a bit of an adventure to face what emotionally we have never really consciously faced before, this is what makes losing weight either difficult or easy - the willingness or not to face up to whatever is there emotionally, hidden by patterns of 'eating when full'. Once we 'stop when full' / break the pattern of 'eating when full' up comes to light that which we have been hiding ourselves from - unresolved emotional stuff. Go there, and you get slim! That's the journey - the inner journey to true and lasting slimness. Not only a journey but an adventure, and this is where creativity comes in. Once you have broken out of the eat when full cycle in response to whatever is half-hidden emotionally, you are into creativity because often our negative or uncomfortable emotions are part of living an uncreative life - an uncreative life can be described as a life we do not really want to be living, the feeling of 'I'd like things to be different but I feel I need more money to do it, or I need a partner to do it , or I need to be younger, more attractive to do it,' and let's not forget our firm favourite - 'I need to be slimmer to do it!' Let's look at the truth of the matter - I need to be more creative to do it, I need to resolve my emotional stuff to do it. and the 'Am I hungry?' free download from my website www.trueslimness.co.uk is a condensed course in this.
and if you'd like further study you can back this up with a course of phone sessions or a copy of True Slimness the paperback (see my website for details).
Take the time now to think or write down five things you would like to create. Focus on their creation. True Slimness the e-book and paperback is filled with ideas on how to dissolve the blocks to their attainment. Slimness, good health and creativity go hand in hand. Enjoy!
Until next time,
Sofia.
Sunday, 19 December 2010
What's the difference?
Food eaten out of genuine physical hunger, and food eaten when full out of a running away from a life we are not yet satisfied with - What's the difference and why is it important?
There are two types of enjoyment when it comes to eating. One is the enjoyment derived from food when full. Food when full is always eaten out of habit or addiction. There is always an underlying need to escape from our emotions with this kind of eating. 'I just love food.' Is what I often hear. And yet my reply is always. 'You can be slim and still love food. Your enjoyment of food, in fact increases by losing weight this way - the way of stopping when full.'
We often equate greater quantity with greater pleasure. But food eaten when full, we come to realise is not so comfortable after it has moved past the taste buds and is physically making its way towards that already full stomach. Stomach ache, being bloated and indigestion not to mention the inevitable excess weight are the unpleasant side effects of eating when full.
So, this Christmas season and throughout the new year, lets take our resolutions to a new dimension - awareness. Let us all be aware of when we are eating from genuine physical hunger, and let's notice how the quality of that enjoyment of the food, differs from the eating when full that is our old habit that we are even now shaking to its very core, and over 2011 replacing with the wonderfully healthy and pleasurable - I am hungry, I eat. I am full, I stop eating.
May a truly enjoyable relationship to food evolve for you now. If you wish to start you can download, for free, my - Am I hungry? - download sheets from www.trueslimness.co.uk or book a one to one telephone consultation on (01792) 799 617 cost £25 for 45 mins session that will embark you on the journey of true and lasting slimness through being, simply full.
Happy Holidays and a wonderful Christmas and New Year
See you 2011
Sofia
There are two types of enjoyment when it comes to eating. One is the enjoyment derived from food when full. Food when full is always eaten out of habit or addiction. There is always an underlying need to escape from our emotions with this kind of eating. 'I just love food.' Is what I often hear. And yet my reply is always. 'You can be slim and still love food. Your enjoyment of food, in fact increases by losing weight this way - the way of stopping when full.'
We often equate greater quantity with greater pleasure. But food eaten when full, we come to realise is not so comfortable after it has moved past the taste buds and is physically making its way towards that already full stomach. Stomach ache, being bloated and indigestion not to mention the inevitable excess weight are the unpleasant side effects of eating when full.
So, this Christmas season and throughout the new year, lets take our resolutions to a new dimension - awareness. Let us all be aware of when we are eating from genuine physical hunger, and let's notice how the quality of that enjoyment of the food, differs from the eating when full that is our old habit that we are even now shaking to its very core, and over 2011 replacing with the wonderfully healthy and pleasurable - I am hungry, I eat. I am full, I stop eating.
May a truly enjoyable relationship to food evolve for you now. If you wish to start you can download, for free, my - Am I hungry? - download sheets from www.trueslimness.co.uk or book a one to one telephone consultation on (01792) 799 617 cost £25 for 45 mins session that will embark you on the journey of true and lasting slimness through being, simply full.
Happy Holidays and a wonderful Christmas and New Year
See you 2011
Sofia
Sunday, 5 December 2010
Stress
When I worked in London one of the main reasons women gave me for overeating was stress, and coming up to to the 25th of December we all know that stress abounds.
I always see difficult times as an opportunity to be more aware.
'So how can being even more aware of how stressed I am help me?' you may ask. Well if you are aware, and acutely aware of your stress then you are not running away from it, you are no longer numb to it, you are no longer suppressing it. Being aware that you are feeling stressed also allows you to be aware that you may be likely to binge. Yes, that urge to eat when full may just be round the corner lurking in a Subway, or Costa Coffee shop after just, one-to-many, fellow shoppers bumped into you, or the sales assistant was so aloof or down right rude that it sent your stress levels to the 'I need a binge' state.
So yes, be aware, the potential to binge is ever present when we are compulsive eaters / overweight and this is what we are arming ourselves against with the 'Am I hungry' handout sheet which you can download free from www.trueslimness.co.uk
Let nothing be a reason for you to eat when full. This can be your goal now, for once followed, it can get you slim and keep you slim, Christmas, after Christmas, after Christmas.
xxx Sofia
I always see difficult times as an opportunity to be more aware.
'So how can being even more aware of how stressed I am help me?' you may ask. Well if you are aware, and acutely aware of your stress then you are not running away from it, you are no longer numb to it, you are no longer suppressing it. Being aware that you are feeling stressed also allows you to be aware that you may be likely to binge. Yes, that urge to eat when full may just be round the corner lurking in a Subway, or Costa Coffee shop after just, one-to-many, fellow shoppers bumped into you, or the sales assistant was so aloof or down right rude that it sent your stress levels to the 'I need a binge' state.
So yes, be aware, the potential to binge is ever present when we are compulsive eaters / overweight and this is what we are arming ourselves against with the 'Am I hungry' handout sheet which you can download free from www.trueslimness.co.uk
Let nothing be a reason for you to eat when full. This can be your goal now, for once followed, it can get you slim and keep you slim, Christmas, after Christmas, after Christmas.
xxx Sofia
Thursday, 2 September 2010
To be at peace with the weight you already are - the higher weight - is a necessary prerequisite to getting and staying slim.
Why?
Because being okay with the weight you are now (the higher weight) is a sign of total acceptance of yourself regardless. That means, you can say to yourself - I accept myself now regardless of what size and shape I am. I accept myself now regardless of the state of my finances. I accept myself now regardless of the state of my relationships or career.
In other words you don't have to wait until you are slim, healthy and financially prosperous before you accept yourself.
A lot of us got 'conditional' love all throughout our lives and grew up feeling we would be accepted, liked or praised (noticed even) if we we slimmer, prettier, smarter etc and the wounds of that could be at the root of our habit of 'eating when full.' So we are really bringing unconditional love into the equation here to help us change weight-gaining habits into slim-friendly habits.
So, even though the mainstream idea is - 'If I criticize myself it will help me change in positive ways,' - in fact the opposite is true. Self-criticism only serves to keep us stuck in a rut - the rut of eating when full. Self-criticism helps us feel lousy. Whereas self-acceptance helps us feel good about ourselves now and also helps us alter and change any habits we might wish to change, such as the habit of eating when full. So no longer condemn or criticize yourself for eating when full, rather accept that 'eating when ful' has simply been your learned way of dealing with emotional stuff and you are now, (with the help of the free download from trueslimness.co.uk - Am I hungry?), able to learn how to stop when full and resolve those emotional issues that can cause us to eat when physically full. Remember eating when full causes weight gain and stopping when full creates weight loss and natural permanent slimness. Self-acceptance creats a smooth road on which to travel as we alter and change the habits of a lifetime.
Sofia
Why?
Because being okay with the weight you are now (the higher weight) is a sign of total acceptance of yourself regardless. That means, you can say to yourself - I accept myself now regardless of what size and shape I am. I accept myself now regardless of the state of my finances. I accept myself now regardless of the state of my relationships or career.
In other words you don't have to wait until you are slim, healthy and financially prosperous before you accept yourself.
A lot of us got 'conditional' love all throughout our lives and grew up feeling we would be accepted, liked or praised (noticed even) if we we slimmer, prettier, smarter etc and the wounds of that could be at the root of our habit of 'eating when full.' So we are really bringing unconditional love into the equation here to help us change weight-gaining habits into slim-friendly habits.
So, even though the mainstream idea is - 'If I criticize myself it will help me change in positive ways,' - in fact the opposite is true. Self-criticism only serves to keep us stuck in a rut - the rut of eating when full. Self-criticism helps us feel lousy. Whereas self-acceptance helps us feel good about ourselves now and also helps us alter and change any habits we might wish to change, such as the habit of eating when full. So no longer condemn or criticize yourself for eating when full, rather accept that 'eating when ful' has simply been your learned way of dealing with emotional stuff and you are now, (with the help of the free download from trueslimness.co.uk - Am I hungry?), able to learn how to stop when full and resolve those emotional issues that can cause us to eat when physically full. Remember eating when full causes weight gain and stopping when full creates weight loss and natural permanent slimness. Self-acceptance creats a smooth road on which to travel as we alter and change the habits of a lifetime.
Sofia
Tuesday, 29 June 2010
Self-Acceptance
To accept myself completely means?
To ponder this question is interesting. What does it mean to me to accept myself completely? Does it mean I condone all those habits and actions that I feel are mistakes? Is it to overlook all the bad decisions I've made? Is it to say all those failures were perfectly okay? No, funnily enough, self-acceptance does not mean we condone actions that should never be condoned - self acceptance is not a condoning state of mind, it is an understanding, compassionate, and willing to change state of mind. Yes, most of all, self-acceptance is a willing to change state of mind. and isn't that what we are looking for when we are faced with the reality of habits such as overeating?
Eating when full, the binge, none of us are proud of this habit but accepting it means that we approach it with understanding and compassion and the ability to change. Acceptance is gentle and wise, and in that gentleness and wisdom self-acceptance gives us room to change, gives us the ability to change. Self-condemnation is harsh, lacking in real understanding, devoid of compassion leaving us debilitated when it comes to changing that habit.
Self-acceptance is a major part of giving up eating when full, and I have a full chapter on it in my book True Slimness available from www.trueslimness.co.uk
If you work at developing your self-acceptance now, you simply take it witnh you as you get slimmer as the direct result of eating when hungry and stopping when full.
Sofia
To ponder this question is interesting. What does it mean to me to accept myself completely? Does it mean I condone all those habits and actions that I feel are mistakes? Is it to overlook all the bad decisions I've made? Is it to say all those failures were perfectly okay? No, funnily enough, self-acceptance does not mean we condone actions that should never be condoned - self acceptance is not a condoning state of mind, it is an understanding, compassionate, and willing to change state of mind. Yes, most of all, self-acceptance is a willing to change state of mind. and isn't that what we are looking for when we are faced with the reality of habits such as overeating?
Eating when full, the binge, none of us are proud of this habit but accepting it means that we approach it with understanding and compassion and the ability to change. Acceptance is gentle and wise, and in that gentleness and wisdom self-acceptance gives us room to change, gives us the ability to change. Self-condemnation is harsh, lacking in real understanding, devoid of compassion leaving us debilitated when it comes to changing that habit.
Self-acceptance is a major part of giving up eating when full, and I have a full chapter on it in my book True Slimness available from www.trueslimness.co.uk
If you work at developing your self-acceptance now, you simply take it witnh you as you get slimmer as the direct result of eating when hungry and stopping when full.
Sofia
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