To be at peace with the weight you already are - the higher weight - is a necessary prerequisite to getting and staying slim.
Why?
Because being okay with the weight you are now (the higher weight) is a sign of total acceptance of yourself regardless. That means, you can say to yourself - I accept myself now regardless of what size and shape I am. I accept myself now regardless of the state of my finances. I accept myself now regardless of the state of my relationships or career.
In other words you don't have to wait until you are slim, healthy and financially prosperous before you accept yourself.
A lot of us got 'conditional' love all throughout our lives and grew up feeling we would be accepted, liked or praised (noticed even) if we we slimmer, prettier, smarter etc and the wounds of that could be at the root of our habit of 'eating when full.' So we are really bringing unconditional love into the equation here to help us change weight-gaining habits into slim-friendly habits.
So, even though the mainstream idea is - 'If I criticize myself it will help me change in positive ways,' - in fact the opposite is true. Self-criticism only serves to keep us stuck in a rut - the rut of eating when full. Self-criticism helps us feel lousy. Whereas self-acceptance helps us feel good about ourselves now and also helps us alter and change any habits we might wish to change, such as the habit of eating when full. So no longer condemn or criticize yourself for eating when full, rather accept that 'eating when ful' has simply been your learned way of dealing with emotional stuff and you are now, (with the help of the free download from trueslimness.co.uk - Am I hungry?), able to learn how to stop when full and resolve those emotional issues that can cause us to eat when physically full. Remember eating when full causes weight gain and stopping when full creates weight loss and natural permanent slimness. Self-acceptance creats a smooth road on which to travel as we alter and change the habits of a lifetime.
Sofia
Thursday, 2 September 2010
Tuesday, 29 June 2010
Self-Acceptance
To accept myself completely means?
To ponder this question is interesting. What does it mean to me to accept myself completely? Does it mean I condone all those habits and actions that I feel are mistakes? Is it to overlook all the bad decisions I've made? Is it to say all those failures were perfectly okay? No, funnily enough, self-acceptance does not mean we condone actions that should never be condoned - self acceptance is not a condoning state of mind, it is an understanding, compassionate, and willing to change state of mind. Yes, most of all, self-acceptance is a willing to change state of mind. and isn't that what we are looking for when we are faced with the reality of habits such as overeating?
Eating when full, the binge, none of us are proud of this habit but accepting it means that we approach it with understanding and compassion and the ability to change. Acceptance is gentle and wise, and in that gentleness and wisdom self-acceptance gives us room to change, gives us the ability to change. Self-condemnation is harsh, lacking in real understanding, devoid of compassion leaving us debilitated when it comes to changing that habit.
Self-acceptance is a major part of giving up eating when full, and I have a full chapter on it in my book True Slimness available from www.trueslimness.co.uk
If you work at developing your self-acceptance now, you simply take it witnh you as you get slimmer as the direct result of eating when hungry and stopping when full.
Sofia
To ponder this question is interesting. What does it mean to me to accept myself completely? Does it mean I condone all those habits and actions that I feel are mistakes? Is it to overlook all the bad decisions I've made? Is it to say all those failures were perfectly okay? No, funnily enough, self-acceptance does not mean we condone actions that should never be condoned - self acceptance is not a condoning state of mind, it is an understanding, compassionate, and willing to change state of mind. Yes, most of all, self-acceptance is a willing to change state of mind. and isn't that what we are looking for when we are faced with the reality of habits such as overeating?
Eating when full, the binge, none of us are proud of this habit but accepting it means that we approach it with understanding and compassion and the ability to change. Acceptance is gentle and wise, and in that gentleness and wisdom self-acceptance gives us room to change, gives us the ability to change. Self-condemnation is harsh, lacking in real understanding, devoid of compassion leaving us debilitated when it comes to changing that habit.
Self-acceptance is a major part of giving up eating when full, and I have a full chapter on it in my book True Slimness available from www.trueslimness.co.uk
If you work at developing your self-acceptance now, you simply take it witnh you as you get slimmer as the direct result of eating when hungry and stopping when full.
Sofia
Sunday, 30 May 2010
Emotional stuff
How often do we associate slimness with a problem free life? But the truth of the matter is that being slim does not mean that our problems get resolved, or automatically disappear. Of this we must remind ourselves.
The good news is that resolving our problems, does mean that we can get slim. This is because, at the back of every binge, is an emotional dilemma, an unresolved problem - this is what drives us to eat when full. The argument with your spouse, the coldness of your relationship with your mother or sister, the buried anger of something that happened ten years ago - this is the sort of emotional stuff that is really driving us to overeat, so once we have a willingness to 'go there' into the unresolved emotional stuff and deal with it in a new way (a way that involves feeling the uncomfortable feelings associated with this problem) then we are half way home and firmly putting ourselves in the position to never overeat again.
The emotional stuff that used to drive me to overeat in the past, is resolved for me now - I have no craving to eat when full because of that emotional stuff anymore, it has lost its sting, I have dealt with it and asked myself - Given the fact I feel this way what would I like to do now?' Thus tapping into my intuitive guidance for answers and suggestions for action to take if any. In this way I have become and stayed for over twenty years and moved forward in my life. This is a big part of my teaching methods for True Slimness weight loss. For more info see - www.trueslimness.co.uk
May true and lasting slimness begin for you now!
Regards
Sofia
The good news is that resolving our problems, does mean that we can get slim. This is because, at the back of every binge, is an emotional dilemma, an unresolved problem - this is what drives us to eat when full. The argument with your spouse, the coldness of your relationship with your mother or sister, the buried anger of something that happened ten years ago - this is the sort of emotional stuff that is really driving us to overeat, so once we have a willingness to 'go there' into the unresolved emotional stuff and deal with it in a new way (a way that involves feeling the uncomfortable feelings associated with this problem) then we are half way home and firmly putting ourselves in the position to never overeat again.
The emotional stuff that used to drive me to overeat in the past, is resolved for me now - I have no craving to eat when full because of that emotional stuff anymore, it has lost its sting, I have dealt with it and asked myself - Given the fact I feel this way what would I like to do now?' Thus tapping into my intuitive guidance for answers and suggestions for action to take if any. In this way I have become and stayed for over twenty years and moved forward in my life. This is a big part of my teaching methods for True Slimness weight loss. For more info see - www.trueslimness.co.uk
May true and lasting slimness begin for you now!
Regards
Sofia
Saturday, 1 May 2010
Seasons changing / habits changing
What glorious summer sunshine we have been having lately! I am still amazed at Mother Nature's workings of gradual progression from one timeless season to another. What wonder is all around us.
I remember when I lived in central London, due to a lack of rolling hills (something I was used to growing up in rural Ireland) I rarely noticed the seasons change. Then I moved to a flat with an overgrown garden in West Hampstead, North London and that first spring, seeing the buds form on trees that had, only a few weeks previously, been covered in a layer of snow! And, the buds opened giving leaves and rustling greenery as the summer progressed. That was when I connected the metaphysical ideas that I was studying, to the tiny steps of growth that causes nature's transformation in the cycles of the seasons.
And we too transform our lives, our habits, our responses, our thoughts from negative to positive when we embark on any self-changing methods such as the True Slimness weight loss method I teach through my phone sessions and e-books which can be downloaded from http://www.trueslimness.co.uk
I have seen many positive changes in my own life and the change from compulsive eater to naturally slim woman who loves food and eats when hungry and stops when full, is by far the most wonderful altering and changing I have ever experienced in my life - I wish this transformation for all compulsive eaters and overweight people. So I invite you to embark on this journey with me through my e-books True Slimness Simply Full and Guidelines for Healing your Eating Habit.
Kind Regards
Sofia
I remember when I lived in central London, due to a lack of rolling hills (something I was used to growing up in rural Ireland) I rarely noticed the seasons change. Then I moved to a flat with an overgrown garden in West Hampstead, North London and that first spring, seeing the buds form on trees that had, only a few weeks previously, been covered in a layer of snow! And, the buds opened giving leaves and rustling greenery as the summer progressed. That was when I connected the metaphysical ideas that I was studying, to the tiny steps of growth that causes nature's transformation in the cycles of the seasons.
And we too transform our lives, our habits, our responses, our thoughts from negative to positive when we embark on any self-changing methods such as the True Slimness weight loss method I teach through my phone sessions and e-books which can be downloaded from http://www.trueslimness.co.uk
I have seen many positive changes in my own life and the change from compulsive eater to naturally slim woman who loves food and eats when hungry and stops when full, is by far the most wonderful altering and changing I have ever experienced in my life - I wish this transformation for all compulsive eaters and overweight people. So I invite you to embark on this journey with me through my e-books True Slimness Simply Full and Guidelines for Healing your Eating Habit.
Kind Regards
Sofia
Saturday, 17 April 2010
In control of our lives
Often, when we are compulsive eaters, we feel that food is the only area of our lives we have control over. The rest of our life may seem to be dictated by outside circumstance and we feel powerless to do anything to change any area of our life we wish to change.
Sometimes we might feel that if we could only be slimmer then everything else in our lives will fall into place. We feel that if we were slimmer, then my spouse would be more attentive, my parents would acknowledge me, or praise me, or listen to me. We often feel a lot is dependant upon getting slim. Maybe we have even become slim through dieting, only to find that those self same problems have not miraculously disappeared due to our new slimmer body size, and so we then binge and the weight is quickly regained.
This is one of the reasons weight is so often regained. If we do not make 'resolving our emotional stuff' one of the key elements, in our weight loss program, then the weight loss is destined to be short lived. This is why 'resolving emotional stuff' is foremost in our minds as we employ the True Slimness method of weight loss. 'Resolving our emotional stuff' is one of the major guidelines in this weight loss method, that does indeed, achieve, true, and lasting slimness.
So ask yourself 'What would I like to do in my life?' Think big. think unlimited. Ask yourself 'What would I do if I had an infinite amount of money, time and resources?' Daydream, and then write down a few ideas as to what could be the next step for you to take in that direction. Ignore the dismissive part of yourself that harps on at you 'No, no, no, it can't be done.' The truth is it can be done with self-effort, with believing it can be done, and doing what it takes to do it - 'It' being - that which you desire.
Now decide what you desire, start to listen to your heart-felt desires! Ask yourself 'How do I accomplish that which I desire?' rather than dismissing it as impossible.
You will be very surprised at the doors that open when you identify that which you really feel enthusiastic about, and go about following that joy. Even if it is just reading a book on the subject, speaking to an expert in that field of your interest, or attending a class on your much loved subject, or looking on the Internet about that field of interest. That is good enough to start you on a road of following your enthusiasm. Seek it, find it, follow it - your joy, your interests, your passion.
Believe it or not, it is all part and parcel, of achieving true and lasting slimness.
xSofia
Sometimes we might feel that if we could only be slimmer then everything else in our lives will fall into place. We feel that if we were slimmer, then my spouse would be more attentive, my parents would acknowledge me, or praise me, or listen to me. We often feel a lot is dependant upon getting slim. Maybe we have even become slim through dieting, only to find that those self same problems have not miraculously disappeared due to our new slimmer body size, and so we then binge and the weight is quickly regained.
This is one of the reasons weight is so often regained. If we do not make 'resolving our emotional stuff' one of the key elements, in our weight loss program, then the weight loss is destined to be short lived. This is why 'resolving emotional stuff' is foremost in our minds as we employ the True Slimness method of weight loss. 'Resolving our emotional stuff' is one of the major guidelines in this weight loss method, that does indeed, achieve, true, and lasting slimness.
So ask yourself 'What would I like to do in my life?' Think big. think unlimited. Ask yourself 'What would I do if I had an infinite amount of money, time and resources?' Daydream, and then write down a few ideas as to what could be the next step for you to take in that direction. Ignore the dismissive part of yourself that harps on at you 'No, no, no, it can't be done.' The truth is it can be done with self-effort, with believing it can be done, and doing what it takes to do it - 'It' being - that which you desire.
Now decide what you desire, start to listen to your heart-felt desires! Ask yourself 'How do I accomplish that which I desire?' rather than dismissing it as impossible.
You will be very surprised at the doors that open when you identify that which you really feel enthusiastic about, and go about following that joy. Even if it is just reading a book on the subject, speaking to an expert in that field of your interest, or attending a class on your much loved subject, or looking on the Internet about that field of interest. That is good enough to start you on a road of following your enthusiasm. Seek it, find it, follow it - your joy, your interests, your passion.
Believe it or not, it is all part and parcel, of achieving true and lasting slimness.
xSofia
Saturday, 3 April 2010
Crafting the life you wish for
I love this idea of self-acceptance being our starting point for altering or changing the self into something more in harmony with our ideas of who we would like to be.
It is like a sculptor creating a statue. He chips away the pieces he no longer wants in order to craft the statue, that is now, only in his mind's eye - his imagination. So ask yourself what is in your mind, as the ideas about who you would like to be?
Do you see the difference? I am not talking about a list of 'What I should be.' That would go like 'I should be slimmer. I should be richer. I should be a person with a great relationship.' No, this, that I am talking about here, is a lot more fun, than a list of heavy, boring, 'beat me up, I'm not good enough, 'shoulds.''Okay!
What I am talking about here, is a pondering, gentle, 'I'm working on crafting and moulding and sculpting myself and my life' type of attitude and endeavour. You see the difference. The difference is gentleness and quiet strength in the conviction that you are going to do this anyway. Regardless that you do not have the strength, regardless that you feel you do not have what it takes, because if you simply take it step by step, guess what, you do have what it takes because you have the power to take the first step just as surely as you can take your next breath.You have the power to take the next step in crafting, moulding and sculpting your life into that which you desire. Not in one fell swoop, although that could happen, but more likely, in many, many small steps. And the first step is accepting yourself just as you are now - a person who eats when full maybe some of the time, maybe all of the time. Also you are a person who is learning how to stop when full. You are probably a person who can stop when full some of the time and it is that all important 'some of the time' that is even now building into you being a person who stops when full all of the time. The result - a slim you.
So fill in that list of what you would like your life to be like health-wise, career-wise, relationship- wise, friendship-wise, hobby -wise, free time-wise and financially-wise. And daydream about it. As a friend of mine used to say 'There is no tax on dreaming.' Dream big and have fun. Be positive and deal with any negative thoughts or images that come up to disconcert you, by using the free 'Judge your Neighbour and One Belief at a time.' downloads from www.thework.com or www.byronkatie .com.
Hope you found this inspirational have a resurrection of wonder this Easter time and have now wonderful small steps in your life this Easter time and remember to always ask, whenever you think about food or eating ' Am I hungry?' 'Am I genuinely physically hungry?' and If you crave to eat when full ask, 'What feeling is this?' and then 'Given the fact I feel this way, what would I like to do now?' And get busy doing it!
All is well, take a small step today, be gentle and self-accepting of yourself any perceived faults, cut yourself some slack allow yourself to be imperfect and know you can mould, shape and sculpt yourself and your life into that which you desire in small steps.
'Am I hungry ? Am I hungry? Am I hungry' your new mantra when you want to eat, along with.'What feeling is this ?' when you crave food when full. These, the small steps that bring true and lasting slimness.
x Sofia
It is like a sculptor creating a statue. He chips away the pieces he no longer wants in order to craft the statue, that is now, only in his mind's eye - his imagination. So ask yourself what is in your mind, as the ideas about who you would like to be?
Do you see the difference? I am not talking about a list of 'What I should be.' That would go like 'I should be slimmer. I should be richer. I should be a person with a great relationship.' No, this, that I am talking about here, is a lot more fun, than a list of heavy, boring, 'beat me up, I'm not good enough, 'shoulds.''Okay!
What I am talking about here, is a pondering, gentle, 'I'm working on crafting and moulding and sculpting myself and my life' type of attitude and endeavour. You see the difference. The difference is gentleness and quiet strength in the conviction that you are going to do this anyway. Regardless that you do not have the strength, regardless that you feel you do not have what it takes, because if you simply take it step by step, guess what, you do have what it takes because you have the power to take the first step just as surely as you can take your next breath.You have the power to take the next step in crafting, moulding and sculpting your life into that which you desire. Not in one fell swoop, although that could happen, but more likely, in many, many small steps. And the first step is accepting yourself just as you are now - a person who eats when full maybe some of the time, maybe all of the time. Also you are a person who is learning how to stop when full. You are probably a person who can stop when full some of the time and it is that all important 'some of the time' that is even now building into you being a person who stops when full all of the time. The result - a slim you.
So fill in that list of what you would like your life to be like health-wise, career-wise, relationship- wise, friendship-wise, hobby -wise, free time-wise and financially-wise. And daydream about it. As a friend of mine used to say 'There is no tax on dreaming.' Dream big and have fun. Be positive and deal with any negative thoughts or images that come up to disconcert you, by using the free 'Judge your Neighbour and One Belief at a time.' downloads from www.thework.com or www.byronkatie .com.
Hope you found this inspirational have a resurrection of wonder this Easter time and have now wonderful small steps in your life this Easter time and remember to always ask, whenever you think about food or eating ' Am I hungry?' 'Am I genuinely physically hungry?' and If you crave to eat when full ask, 'What feeling is this?' and then 'Given the fact I feel this way, what would I like to do now?' And get busy doing it!
All is well, take a small step today, be gentle and self-accepting of yourself any perceived faults, cut yourself some slack allow yourself to be imperfect and know you can mould, shape and sculpt yourself and your life into that which you desire in small steps.
'Am I hungry ? Am I hungry? Am I hungry' your new mantra when you want to eat, along with.'What feeling is this ?' when you crave food when full. These, the small steps that bring true and lasting slimness.
x Sofia
Thursday, 1 April 2010
Let's get clear about self-acceptance. It is not about simply resigning to how things are. It is not about staying the same. It is very much about change, change , change!
Self-acceptance, contrary to popular belief, actually facilitates change. Self-acceptance actually gives us our accurate starting point. It is simply saying - This is where I am, I am this weight and I have these eating habits I would like to change.
And here is the key - Self-acceptance says this without judgement. This lack of criticism about how things are, actively facilitates change. Beating yourself up, again, contrary to popular belief, does not help you change - it helps you feel miserable about yourself rather than understanding, and compassionate about yourself.
You are human, you picked up some bad eating habits that got ingrained and you were powerless to alter and change them - that is nothing to beat yourself up about - that is something to be understanding about, and simply work on in a new way.
Okay, so all the ways you have tried up till now have not helped you change those ingrained habits, that does not make you 'bad' it simply means you have not found a way that works yet. That is all. Remind yourself of this when you feel like giving out to yourself over a binge or your size and shape. And come back to the 'Am I Hungry?' download Free from www.trueslimness.co.uk and try again. Discover slimness is within your reach and self-acceptance, not self-criticism, helps you move forward with the task at hand - altering and changing your eating patterns from someone who 'eats when full' to someone who' stops when full' 100% of the time. I know you can do it - Freedom from compulsive eating awaits you.
Bye for now,
x Sofia
Self-acceptance, contrary to popular belief, actually facilitates change. Self-acceptance actually gives us our accurate starting point. It is simply saying - This is where I am, I am this weight and I have these eating habits I would like to change.
And here is the key - Self-acceptance says this without judgement. This lack of criticism about how things are, actively facilitates change. Beating yourself up, again, contrary to popular belief, does not help you change - it helps you feel miserable about yourself rather than understanding, and compassionate about yourself.
You are human, you picked up some bad eating habits that got ingrained and you were powerless to alter and change them - that is nothing to beat yourself up about - that is something to be understanding about, and simply work on in a new way.
Okay, so all the ways you have tried up till now have not helped you change those ingrained habits, that does not make you 'bad' it simply means you have not found a way that works yet. That is all. Remind yourself of this when you feel like giving out to yourself over a binge or your size and shape. And come back to the 'Am I Hungry?' download Free from www.trueslimness.co.uk and try again. Discover slimness is within your reach and self-acceptance, not self-criticism, helps you move forward with the task at hand - altering and changing your eating patterns from someone who 'eats when full' to someone who' stops when full' 100% of the time. I know you can do it - Freedom from compulsive eating awaits you.
Bye for now,
x Sofia
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